Updated: Oct 14
I haven’t written in a while because I’ve been dealing the waves of life.
I am a water sign and when I look back at the trials and tribulations I’ve experienced in life, I am reminded that we are never given anything we can’t handle. So when my life partner was diagnosed with dementia, I slipped into a phase of fog. My life would never be the same again., and I knew it.
One of my first thoughts was oh no not again, because I nursed my first husband for six years before he passed. His illness, though lengthy, wasn’t mental, his ailments were physical. I’ve never dealt with a person regressing back to childhood before. One of my grandmothers had dementia but she died of cancer before it got real bad and I didn’t live with her.
I spent about six weeks thinking about the diagnosis and how was I going to get out of the fog. “Get busy“ was the answer I received when I asked that question. So I got busy. I was already busy setting up doctors appointments and taking him to them since overnight he had stopped driving, shopping, and working. I was facing a brand new life.
I found solice in that he was able to still do things for himself to a point. We live in separate residences on the same property so I did have time to myself to reflect. The reflections I looked at have changed my life.
I recognized old behaviors that were holding me back, so I got rid of them to make space for the new things that would pop up in my life. And boy am I glad I did. When it rains it pours, and how you handle the pouring rain depends on where you are when it stops. Though the rain hasn’t stopped yet, it’s manageable.
I’ve learned to enjoy the simple things I like in life like birding, reading, writing, puzzles, and games. All these things that lighten my load and make me happy I can enjoy with my life partner. Even if he doesn’t participate I’m right there enjoying my life with him. I also love to cook and he loves my cooking so how can you not be happy doing that? .
Anyway, like I said, I was born under the sign of water and my life has been a series of waves. Sometimes I’m down in the trough but I can tell when I start climbing my way up to the crest. My life never stays in the trough for too long, just like I don’t stay on the crest forever either.
My life is a life of lessons and how I respond to those lessons decides how happy my life will be.
Carpe Diem Life Wave Surfers